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Describe your family situation growing up. Do you
appreciate it now?
I am the third of five children, and oh how I
appreciate all things more these day.
What does the world need most?
What the world needs most, these days...For all to
follow the Golden Rule, but with a twist. "Do
unto others as they would have you do unto them."
What one thing, if you did it every day, would do
the world the most good?
I am glad someone realizes the need, and strength
of doing the small things. Long before the movie
"Pay It Forward" came out, I was taught by my
Mother and Father to beat people to the good
punch. Do good things for them, serve them, and
help them for your and their happiness. Loving
them will help them and me.
If no one could see you, would you sunbathe
naked?
Yes, I do. But then...if no one can see me...am I
really naked?
Consider that! This world is bigger than I can
comprehend, and small enough for me to realize
that I am not its center.
Do you sing in the shower?
In the shower, in the tub, at work, on my walk,
playing with the dog, in the car…MMM, when am I
not singing?
Do you prefer privacy or lots of people around?
YES...What particular moments are you referring
to?
Do people love or admire you?
I do. I love me, and I admire the things that I
have been able to overcome. I am pleased with my
progress, and trust that the Lord is Pleased with
me. This brings to mind all the wonderful time
that the kids and I have been able to spend
together. I love them, and I let them know...they
love me and let me know.
Their expressions of love are not limited to
verbal affirmations.
Have you ever written a love poem?
OH MY! Not just one... This is the only way to
gather together and express the nebulas emotions
that I feel when I am in love. Well, when I feel
or think that I am in love.
Parlez-vous francais?
No, but Cody does. That is the girl child that I
have been blessed with. She has been learning it
since Jr. High School. All part of “Dads Master
Plan.” hahahah. Nothing happens by accident,
only not on purpose. I make sure that she is
affected by purpose as well as accident.
Does immorality bother you?
Only my own!
What one thing, if you did it every day, would do
your life the most good?
I already do it...I read the scriptures daily.
That I read them in the bath...for 1 to 3 hours a
night/day/morning I really don't want others to
know. LOL
chistoso!
Do you ever stick out your tongue at people?
Behind their back or to their face?
Often, what it means I am not sure...but then
again...who cares?
BUT, it's fun.
Do you prefer the ocean, mountains, plains or
city?
Give me a desert, or an open range where I can see
past eternity...and I am happy as a lark. It all
goes back to that singing thing.
Do you speak any foreign languages?
Yo hablo, un poquito Espenol. Actualmente, me
gusto mucho la gente, y todo que tienen.
Equalmente, pienso que las chicas son la Primera &
la Ultima. ?De que sonrisa?
Describe how you would treat a first date.
The same way I treat a second, third,
fourth...date. Exactly the way I like to be
treated. This date thing is just for fun. Please
do not ask me to have your child, and I will
promise that I will not propose. Lets discover
what kind of dynamic we create by being together
socially.
How do you decide who pays for a date?
If it is a date, it has already been decided...I
do. Just hanging out…whom ever has money on
them. Not a big deal.
Would you like to have a paint ball gun mounted
under the hood of your car?
...and why?
Are you ever unpleasant to be around?
I am not sure, but when I hang around me...we have
a great time. The three of us have gone many
places together...Me, Myself, and I, and it is
always worth the effort.
How important is using correct grammar?
Now that all depends on the sit-a-ation. However,
when the message is of any level of great
importance...better make sure that I have given it
some real thought if I expect others to understand
what I am trying to say.
Playing, having fun, being silly...other
appropriate sit-a-ations demand a loving and
understanding level of language. But, as for
myself...I love language, I love speaking it, I
love writing it, and I really love hearing
good-clean-thoughtprovokingstimulating, and
endearing language...all without DRAMA.
What do you most love in others?
Great question..."world peace?" Wait, right
answer, but wrong question. I Love and admire
others who have taken the time to understand their
own paradigm, people who are genuinely interested
in what I have to say, and require an attentive
ear from a listener.
Do you have a secret identity?
Don Quixote, The Man From La Mancha...at your
service. I am constantly dreaming the impossible
dream. I am continually reaching for that
unreachable star. I am persistently righting that
unrightable wrong. I am always going where the
brave (LDS members) are not going.
Do you hold grudges?
That would mean that I would have to remember
them. Which would also mean that I would have to
carry the memories or feelings around with me.
Which would mean that I would not have time or
energy to focus on the good stuff.
Do you sing along with the car radio? Do you care
if people see?
I always sing and dance... like no one is
watching.
Does profanity offend you?
Only when it is spoken. I do find it very
interesting the number of people who must use such
language because they have such a limited
vocabulary. However, if U have taken the time to
read this, and you have never in your life used
any profanity...you may beee tooo prefect for
me.
What must you know about someone before you would
marry them?
I think that, the time that we spend together
would give me a good understanding of what I liked
and did not like about a person. But the most
fundamental question that I would need to have
answered would be...what amount of time are you
willing to invest into our relationship, what
amount of time are you willing to give too
yourself, what amount of time are you capable of
giving to others?
How much time do you spend watching television?
What do you watch?
I really don't watch much TV, but only because I
do not have one in the living room of the
apartment. TV is nice, but I seem to still have a
heartbeat without it. But when I do watch the
tube, I enjoy the History Channel, the Discovery
Channel, Some of the movie channels, CNN,
NBC...
Do you focus more on the past, present or future?
What difference does it make?
My main focus is mostly on the present. I have
been told, by many friends, that I am a good
listener, and that I am genuine and fun to be
around. Not many years ago, I decided that I was
no longer going to live in the future, nor was I
going to continually think into the past.
It has had a big impact on my life, living and
enjoying exactly what I am doing, at the moment
that I am doing it in, all with the people that I
am with. I have come to understand that any time
or situation is wondrous if I am in it. Not that
my being in the moment, that makes it wonderful,
but my living the moment gives it meaning for
me.
What do you miss about being married?
At this point of my life, I feel that I miss the
intimacy the most. Holding hands in the mall or
the park, walking to of from the car, or just
sitting somewhere. I miss “Pillow Talk,” late
at night, and laughing at the silliest things.
Even though my body is healthy, and mind is clear,
my skin misses the touch of a woman. I miss being
winked at, even in inopportune moments.
What do you feel are the bonds that hold a
marriage together?
I think that I could pull those bonds from a
couple different categories.
First, I would have to say physical attraction or
connection, which is much different than “Good
Looking” or appearance, but something deeper,
more on a biological level…closer to a nature
thing.
Second, I would have to say a mental connection.
Some type of level where words were only a part of
a conversation, while the other parts, related to
the direction of the conversation, or the concepts
being discussed. It’s that odd moment when you
feel like saying, “Hey! I was thinking that same
thing”…and it is the truth.
Third, would have to be an understanding of the
Gospel of Jesus Christ, the personal committed
ness of following the whole plan, and not pulling
out what is convenient, while leaving what is not.
For me, this equates to a margin of forgiveness
large enough to encompass all the unrighteous, yet
safe enough to avoid harm, and strong enough to
exercise my faith within it. I will not walk away
from a smoker, I will not stop talking to a
drinker, and I will always give, without
consideration, to the poor.
Fourth, I guess this would have to be
psychological in nature. After being single for
some few years, I have seen that we all have
baggage. This is no problem for me, I gots it
too. LOL But, when I go out, I leave *Email
Blocked* I have conversations, I don’t air my
dirty laundry, and I most assuredly do not air
others. When I am with U, I want to talk about U
& Me.
I feel that each one of these different categories
can easily represent a chair that has four legs.
Each is strong enough to hold its sitter, but the
chair has a much greater stability if it is
balanced on all four, for the sitter.
What then is the fuel that drives a marriage;
while the things you said above are holding it
together, too keep it moving?
I believe that the same things that have brought
two different people together, say in the first
year of the newly found “ship,” those are the
things that will power the relationship into the
future, successfully. If the relationship is not
going well, I feel it is because the nature of the
relationship has changed, or a new dynamic has
created uncertainty.
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