hello friends! im lei from naga city phils...this site is cool and people are nice so i want to meet more pals here...im a SERIOUS jolly person...cool and easy to be with...i can go along with you coz being flexible is my special talent...i am a very futuristic person...i love setting goals to prepare myself for a brighter future...

let me share with you a summary of my life...i hope i could share wonderful insights...this is not part of my short intro...hehe...just wanna share something...
(this is a paper that i have submitted in my psychology subject...this is about ME)
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I Am a Product of My Environment

Man cannot live alone. During his mortal life he needs to be associated to other people in order to personally progress. All my life, I have been influence by so many people around me which have shaped me to what I am now.
My parents are the greatest influence in me. They were the ones I saw the moment I first opened my eyes. They provided me with everything they can give.
What I most appreciate about them is their goal of bringing me up in the love and fear of the Lord, their study about my dispositions and temperaments to be able to deal with me accordingly and their disciplinary actions that encourage me to love them rather than to fear them. This is the reason why I feel secured about my life and I am full of dreams that someday I can also raise an ideal family.
My brothers and sister also took part in molding me. Often times they are my encouragements. When I joined contests in my elementary years, my older brother coaches me in math because he is good in that subject. He would always tell me how easy and interesting that subject is. During my achievement days he compliments a lot and advices me to practice more so I can do more. When I lose the challenge, he seeks for a nice word so as for me not to mislay my confidence. Because of his undying support, I told myself: “I will live as all good actors do when they are onstage”.
I definitely cannot exclude my grandparents in my life. Because of them I have learned to handle life with ease and cheer. They are always happy, smiling. They often tell stories about their childhood days – how grandma played in the huge areas of Partido and how grandpa had a funny life during the Japanese occupation. They were poor then aside from the fact that the lives of Filipinos before are very complicated. Despite all these, they had finished their education. This gave me an insight which guides me as I reach for my goals in life –“I will condition myself to look on every problem I encounter today as no more than a pebble in my shoe”. I became inspired and determined.
My friends also shaped my character. I always assess myself in a way by which I can please them. Pleasing them means trying to prioritize their happiness over mine. With this, I learned how to be a person ready to lend a hand. But aside from its positive effect it has also created a part of me that whispers “I may never be a good friend to others”. This is because when I was in grade five, my classmate whom I considered to be a close friend told me that I have so many friends because I am intelligent and that they need me in solving problems, answering comprehensive questions, etc. I then began to think: “What if I am an idiot? Would I still have true friends?” I humbly accept that I am really choosy and very hypercritical in choosing my friends although this negative attitude cannot be seen in me by others.
My teachers as well as my classmates also captured a piece of me. Since they are my second family and I am with them almost everyday, all those different attitudes and personalities surround me so I learn how to mix them well in order to come up with a delicious recipe. Because of them, I am more flexible and I learn to appreciate individual differences. I learn how to value a person.
I am very grateful to all these people who have made me to what I am now. I know they are the instruments which our good Lord has used in order to mold me. Sometimes the results are good and sometimes bad. What is important is that I have learned to keep a smile on my face and in my heart even when it hurts for I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul.

My Wonderful Family

While writing my autobiography, I noticed that I cannot plot a stage without writing first my family as the people who have influenced me of becoming the person I am right now. With this, I realized that they have the greatest influence in me. Because of them I feel secured and confident in mingling with other people. It is not from the reason of being financially sound because we are definitely not. It is simply because of being a common family who has never been successful in the business world but is something that can be very proud of – a family that a young woman like me would always wish to have. I am not creating this statement for bias. Neither am I exaggerating the positive sides of my family. If I am to generalize my whole life experience, my conclusion would end up to a happy and grateful feeling. Maybe this is the reason why I am a positive thinker.

A Good Generation

As I recall the ways of my parents in raising their children, another realization came into my mind. I found out that parents’ influence can extend to future generations. “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he grows up he will not depart from it” – a quotation that says it all. What my parents have taught me are the raw materials of my actions. The knowledge I have gained will remain in me and when the right time comes for me to have a family of my own, those wisdom will be passed on to my children and from them to the next generations. Now I believe that: “If you want to act for a change, start within yourself and everything will follow”. The secret of correcting the attitude of others is to correct my own.


Part II

In the development of Erik Erikson’s Psycholosocial Theory of Development he insisted that relationship is very important in life because man is naturally a social being. This relationship can either result to a positive and a negative effect in one’s life.
I have always trusted my parents since I was a child. Every decision, whether big or small, are not made without their opinions.
I became dependent to them. I felt the assurance in all that I am doing because “my parents are there to help me” and “they can correct the situation if ever I commit mistakes”. It was a childhood struggle. Little by little my parents taught me to become independent. “Fix your toys… clean the dining table and set the plates… do your school project by yourself” are the familiar words that I can recall. For a child, that shifting is difficult. There were times when I already felt disappointed to them presuming that they do not love me anymore because they are no longer fond of me. This may sound so corny but that was exactly how I felt at that very moment even though those negative feelings were with me in just a short span of time.
Now, I am exactly different from that girl before. I iron my own clothes, wash the dishes, cook our dinner and clean the house. I do not submit school projects asking the help of other people. I do them with all my efforts and I am proud of it.
I don’t recite in the class when I was in grade one. I was afraid to express myself because my classmates told me how cruel our adviser was – like a tiger as how they described her. She really was! When she asked me to read orally some syllables written on the board, one of my classmates kept chatting with someone at the back. The “tiger” commanded me to stop as she was furiously looking at my classmate. She ordered him to stand. Boom! At a blink of an eye his little face was full of chalk dust because the angry sharp-shooter creature threw her powerful eraser to him. I was shocked.
Maybe, my reaction to that incident has moved my adviser. After the class, she asked me to stay. She told me to interpret her disciplinary actions as encouragements. She commented on how I did well in my tests and examinations so I should not limit myself.
It was effective. Day by day I strived to let my light shine before others. Everyday seemed to be a day of discovery. “I will never hide my talents. If I am silent, I am forgotten, if I do not advance, I will fall back. If I walk away from any challenge today, my self-esteem will be forever scarred, and if I cease to grow, even a little, I will become smaller. I reject the stationary position because it is always the beginning of the end” (Og Mandino). I succeeded! I have developed competence versus inferiority.
My adolescence stage is a fruitful one. I have my authoritative parents guiding me. They are firm yet gentle in giving counsels. They would always tell us the right things to do – including the “musts” and the “should”. But they will always leave the decision-making to us because they have the trust – the one that has been developed in me since my infancy days.
I agree with the theory of Erikson. Life indeed is made up of relationship and for me, it is all about giving. From the day I was born until now is colored with relationships - interactions which help me progress and have tested me. But no matter what life brings, I will still work this day with all my strength to be generous to others because it is only through giving that one finds the true happiness in life. I used to be self-centered and always try to find things that will make me enjoy. Happiness should not be my goal. It is just a by-product of giving.

i like singing, dancing, and watching tv shows. i like music. i can play piano and a little of guitar. my fav subjects are math, physics, and biology. i play volleyball..table tennis...badminton. i love hiking...adventures...anything... try things i've never done before...i love attending church activities and attending institute classes...i love reading the scriptures...i seldom cook in the kitchen but im a good cook (my parents say so)...i bake if i have time...i love doing arts and crafts...