I am told that I am quite funny. Easy to entreat. Understandable, not jaded. Cynically positive, I am an oxy-mormon. Upbeat, but clear headed; my head is in the clouds, but my feet are firmly planted on earth. Deeply involved in helping others get out of thier addictions, meaning 12 step recovery work, not the goofy stuff -- the real thing. Get this, I am a 'recovered' alcoholic who is a mormon. : ) I am jest a fool who knows he's a fool, therefore I am wise. I am 'your' friend.

My idea of a perfect first date:

Laughter, to be touched by her intellect, and her heart.

One who talks lovingly about Mom and Dad.

A woman who is not spoiled, or bratty.

A woman who is not only attractive enough to look at on the inside but, who's tongue speaks honesty, unselfishness, purity of motive, and love for the strength of the Lord (rather than man, esp. her man) with each and every syllable. [not one who is perfect by mans standard; but a woman who is graceful, kind, and loving] Need I say more? : ) Yes, I just NOW wrote that.



My perception of an ideal relationship:

Neither partner is interested in re-wiring each others head.

Here are some thoughts, ones that I am generating from my heart, and intellect right upon this very writing:

To me the make-up of a good man and woman is not gender specific. The same principles that make a good woman good, are the same that make a okay man, better. It is my experience that woman are superior to men in some ways. But, I now see that men are superior to women in some ways as well. Men follow instructions, and women can instruct with a following. (yes, I just made that up) he he.

To me all joy, real 'joy' (I am not talking about pleasure) comes from 'beauty', whether inside or outside. I am just as amorous as the next guy, but I want depth, meaningful connection, and then the joy.

I don't think man is placed on earth to 'not' make mistakes, but instead to learn from them and grow. Certainly, to never repeat them, again. But, how does one learn to loft off the worst parts of his nature without learning, when seemingly the nature of resistance is stubborness.

I dont think anyone really has the right to try to make another 'be happy' or to 'be miserable' for that matter; not even God does that as you know, but we turn to the Lord; go to Him about that. Hense, it is my conclusion there really are NO relationship problems; every problem is an 'inside job'.

An ideal relationship to me is like a loose robe -- you don't take yourself seriously, but you do when it comes to important and cherished things; it covers the essential sacred parts, its functional and you can both share one robe for intimacy in a committed, covenanted, and noble relationship. Hmmm, yea I like that somehow -- dont you. : )




What I have learned from my past relationships:

To be honest with a heart, at all costs.

Let unselfishness of my talents flow like water in a stream.

Be pure in my motives, no matter the loss.

Have the strength to love what the Lord wants for me, and my loved one -- even when the world is mocking and mean.

finally: Women want to be loved for not what they think as much as the process of what makes them who they are. That, I must be constantly vigilant to understand her, to let her speak her heart out completely -- for she just wants to be loved; because to her being loved is being appreciated for not only how her heart thinks, but her mind as well. In other words a woman is not only an incredibly gifted creation of Father, but simply just a loving, beautiful, and giving person.